SAY SOMETHING NICE.
After long time of no seeing someone who is closely related to me, I´ve decided to meet them and have some food together.
The first thing this person would say, was pointing out my that my teeth is too yellow, that I have a stain on my trousers and that my make up looks weird. I thought to myself, Jesus, if I have ever greeted my friends with this attitude, I sincerely want to apologise.
I know this person didn´t have wrong intentions and said those nasty thing for my own good, however the fact that those were first words uttered, I felt attacked and it made me feel uncomfortable. I thought then, why instead of pointing out some flaw and creating a negative vibe, why don´t we point out the good?
Honestly I compliment my friends as much as possible, because it makes feel nice and them feel good. Whatever I compliment them with, it makes them believe that it is true, and if they believe it is true, it really becomes true. It´s pure psychology, so in that manner it shall be acceptable to make encouraging positive comment, even if it´s not 100% true.
After having travelled so much, and spending all my summers in Ibiza, I realised that if you wanna hang out in the top coolest circle of people and get invited to the hottest events, you simply have to be positive, otherwise you won´t be able to enter the circle within, because no one there likes there the negative shit. For real.
Never in my life, anywhere in the world I had problem with that, I have always been super positively happy. However, I know few people who were´t like that and underwent amazing changes, from a negative boring person becoming a lovely spirit. The reason is simple, they had to adapt if they wanted to be accepted by the group. It was the process I´ve watched and it was something that was happening naturally. We all naturally learn and adapt certain behaviours from one another. I catch myself very often mimicking behaviours and responses of some of the people that made impression on me. There´s so many people that inspired me and so many more I have inspired myself. Love that.
Negative shit happens to all of us, even Dalai Lama has his bad moments. That´s an inherent part of life, that one cannot avoid. So why don´t we treat the obstacles we meet as challenges? Nothing happens for no reason, everything is meant to be. Some things happen to give us a lesson, some other are a result of our karma. We have to accept them, breath and try to overcome it. Even if something does´t seem to be possible, and you look realistic at things that don´t seem to work out, my advice is, STOP LOOKING REALISTIC. Start dreaming. Realism is a form of negativity. Anything is possible, and only you are the limit. The only limit for your meaning your dreams is you.
Two years ago in Marrocco, I met a lovely super beautiful girl, who has later become one of my best friends. When I met her, we were both at pretty bad conditions. Loa, used to model when she was 14, however, a modelling pressure and wrong dietary habits, made her really fat and pretty negative at the time. When I saw her I felt sorry, because having such a pretty face she was loosing her attraction with the overload of fat. Me, on the other side, I had the peak point of my acne. My skin was so horrible that my friends and family were felling sorry for me too and I was afraid to look in the mirror without a layer of foundation. At that time we didn´t have any knowledge of healthy living and I was having standard, “normal diet”. It took both of us a lot of time, experience, lessons and books read to be where we both are right now. We had moments of ups and lows, and it wasn´t easy, yet we never gave up and we always supported one another because we believed and we still believe we can have the image of us we made in our heads, in real life.
My skin is incomparably better compared with 2 years ago, finally I am not afraid of showing my face out without a make up. However, I am not satisfied yet and I keep on fighting, I am still detoxifying and process of eliminating toxins throughout the skin can take some time. I´ve heard of people getting cured in one week of going raw, and I´ve heard if some people getting cured after 3 years. Everyone is individual, I am not gonna give up until I get the result I want, nor Loa will with her weight.
It made me feel really proud, to see her latest achievements. After loosing many extra inches, and a really hard work, Loa made it to model in Japan, China and Indonesia. Loa has been doing magazine´s like Marie Claire and Harper Bazaar now. I am so proud to see her photos, after all this pain, all this effort, knowing it was worthy. I am pretty sure and I have no doubt I see Loa in Vogue soon. I really want it for her.
COMING BACK TO NEGATIVE SHIT… I would say it is pretty much linked with the food. Our food is directly related with the body, mind and spirit. If we eat well and heathy, providing ourself nutrients and especially vitamin b12, which lack is DIRECTLY LINKED WITH DEPRESSION, eating food that vibrate at higher frequency, we will vibe at this high frequency too. Most of the people that I know that are surrounded by the negative aura around them eat pretty bad (of course it is not a rule, because I know a few pretty positive fat people). No wonder why, I wish they first understand the problem and change their habits for better. Life becomes so much more colourful then.
If something bad happens, it is natural, that we are looking for sympathy with another and we share the bad information. It is okay, to speak about those things and it is ok to ask your friend for advice. However it is not ok to do more than that, it is not okay to even think about it too much (or at all), since by doing it we are giving our energy and time to the shit. Our brain, and the universe is not able to distinguish whether that info is positive or negative. It records it as it is, and gives us the feedback based on our thoughts, this is called the LAW OF ATTRACTION. We attract what we think, we attract what we think we have, we attract who we think we are, it´s so simple. If the partner that we have is not a good one and is ignoring our needs, it reflects the fact that we are ignoring ourselves and we do not purely love ourselves. Yet, it´s so easy to change it. HOPE is here.
MOTIVATE AND INSPIRE to do GOOD things instead of the bad.
The people you hang out with, have a direct impact onto your behaviour and choices. People you vibe with, are your tribe. I got inspired by so many good people in variety of things. I am so grateful for this and I am happy to share what I have learnt.
Thus, I honestly don´t like when people post a photo of their bad habits on social networking. Do you not have something inspiring to post rather than a photo of pizza you just ate? Actually… it´s not that I don´t like it, but I am actually quite obsessed with it and I have been regularly deleting people who regularly post this kind of shit. Why? Because I don´t wanna see it. If you don´t see it, you don´t think about it and you don´t crave it. As simple as that is.
Enjoy the photos from my recent days.